PASSIONATE ARGUMENTS: The unmarried Pakistani woman who wrote about her sex life

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(BBC) – When Pakistani writer Zahra Haider wrote about her pre-marital sexual encounters as a teenager in Islamabad for Vice magazine, social media – as you can imagine – had a lot to say.

Haider, now in her 20s, moved to Canada just before her 19th birthday. She wrote that she had used hotel rooms for her liaisons and that her parents “threw a completely irrational and melodramatic fit” when they found out about them.

Zahra Haider's article on sex generated thousands of comments
Zahra Haider’s article on sex generated thousands of comments

Her story has been shared thousands of times and has generated a fierce debate. Some people took exception to her saying that Pakistan had one of the “highest porn-watching populations in the world” and that Pakistanis were “horny and desperate for sex”. Others focused on her admission that she had sex with “almost a dozen people” as a teenager in Islamabad.

In an open letter to Haider on Facebook, which itself was shared more than 6,000 times, journalist Ali Moeen Nawazish criticised her for passing “cultural judgements” on Pakistanis. Nawazish told Trending that there was no “evidence to back up (Haider’s) assertion that Pakistan is the most porn-watching country in the world or that we are sexually repressed”. He added that Haider’s experience as one of Pakistan’s “elite” is not indicative of that of other Pakistani women.

twitterSome social media users in Pakistan were, however, supportive. Haider told Trending that she wrote the piece in order to encourage more open discussion of sex.

“For example, I received a message from someone in Pakistan who lost his brother to Aids. He said that his brother clearly felt shame when discussing his sexuality. The man said as his brother didn’t understand what was happening to his body, he lost his life.”

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  1. Sex with a dozen people while still in her teens!!! Sounds like this twenty something year old woman is badly damaged goods. You are left to wonder what she is up to these days in the permissive western society. Or could it be that she is being paid by ISIS to make these claims so as to strengthen their arguments for exercising draconian dominance and control over women. Her disclosures certainly serve their case.
    God help the husband of this ‘matter of fact’ woman if any man is stupid enough to marry her.

  2. They are not holier than thou..they watch because its intriguing..dont tell me they dont try what they saw on porn on their partners .. kudos for the gurl– keep speaking out– man dont rule the roost no more.times are changing– for the better

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